Ways to Love Your Lover (2)

Here are some nonsexual ways to cherish your wife through words and acts of affirmation. And by the way, these are nonsexual so that you speak her romantic love language. It's important to remember that you are not doing these things to get something in return. Perhaps she will reciprocate in your language back to you, but that's not your goal. 

Put down the newspaper or turn off the computer, and say, "Why don't we go for a walk and talk? I'd love to hear about your day."

Compliment the way she handled the conversation.If you overhear her engaged in a difficult situation on the phone or with a child, 

Initiate daily prayer with her. This one spiritual discipline has transformed millions of marriages. Make a commitment, and then begin to pray together every day. Begin by giving thanks for her and your family, then pray with her about her worries and challenges. Ask her to pray for you about a challenge you are facing.

Say, "Thank you," after every meal she serves. Then help her clear the table or offer to do the dishes with her.

Tell her how much you appreciate her desire to handle it in a godly manner.If she has wrestled with a specific spiritual issue (such as gossip, envy, a lack of compassion).

Express appreciation for her doing the laundry and folding your clothing.

Each day try to say, "I love the way you _______ ," and fill in the blank with something you've observed.

When your wife irons your shirts or picks up the dry cleaning, say, "Thanks, Honey, for taking such good care of me."

When the alarm goes off in the morning, wrap your arm around her, press your body next to hers, and cuddle for several minutes. When you leave, say, "I wish I didn't have to go."

The next time you go to dinner, say, "You've had a tough day, Sweetie. Why don't you pick the spot tonight?"

When you are together in a crowd, find a way to brag on her. Say, "My wife is such an amazing cook," or "I've got the best wife—her ______ never ceases to amaze me."

The morning after making love, touch her tenderly, and tell her how wonderful it was to be with her.

With your wife in the room, tell your kids, "You've got the best mommy in the world. Isn't she great? I just love her so much."

Help her put the kids to bed each night.