Things to Remember About Sex

It’s no surprise that many husbands and wives think differently about sex. And these differences can easily become a source of conflict in marriage.

What husbands should remember about sex;

Movies sex is made up. It’s a fantasy.

The people in romantic scenes in movies are actors. Don’t try to measure your marital sex against what you see in a romantic film.

Your wife needs a safe and secure relationship.

In order for her to engage in sex with heart and mind and body, she needs to know that you will be there for her, that you are committed to her, and that she is your one and only.

Your wife wants to have sex with a companion, not with someone who simply shares her mailing address. If you’re not spending time having fun together in all kinds of settings, she’s going to be less motivated to be with you sexually.

There is no secret formula to arousal.

If you think you have found a secret formula, and you attempt to repeat the recipe, your wife will change the secret. Women don’t want to be figured out. They also don’t want to be manipulated.

Your wife is insecure about her physical beauty. She sees all the flaws. Watch what you say to her.

What wives should remember about sex

Sex is God’s idea.

He created it and gave it as a good gift to husbands and wives in marriage. It is a key part of His plan for how we become one in marriage.

For most men, sex is a big deal

And it’s not because men are perverted or ungodly. God delights when a husband and wife enjoy marital intimacy.

 How you respond to your husband when he initiates sex is critical.

To be uninterested can communicate a lack of respect and honor for him. I’m not saying you need to say yes every time he initiates. But when you say no, explain why in a way that still affirms your desire for him.

Sex is a marital discipline.

 It’s a part of how we serve each other in marriage. It is wrong for a wife to use sex as a reward or a lack of sex as punishment. The Bible clearly teaches that husbands and wives are not to deprive each other in this area.

Men are visually oriented.

No matter how you see yourself, he is stimulated by sight. Again, God is the One who made men with a desire to see women naked. And the only legitimate way for your husband to satisfy this God-given desire is for you to let him see you naked.

Men in romance novels and soap operas are made up.

The strong, sensitive, caring men portrayed in most romance novels are fictional characters. No husband can live up to the near perfection an author presents.