1.When entering the house greet your children with salaams
and kisses. This should help develop their sense of love and mercy.
2. Be good to your neighbors and never backbite. Never speak
ill of other drivers when on the road. Your children listen, absorb and
emulate.
3. When calling your parents, encourage your children to
speak to them. When visiting your parents take your children with you. The more
they see you take care of your parents the more they will learn to take care of
you.
4. When driving them say to school, don't always play albums
or cds. Rather, tell them the stories yourself. This will have a greater impact
- trust me!
5. Read to them a short stories/hadith a day – it doesn't
take much time, but very impactful in creating strong bonds and wonderful
memories.
6. Comb your hair, clean your teeth and wear presentable
cloths even if sitting at home and not going out for the day. They need to
learn that being clean and tidy has nothing to do with going out!
7. Try not to blame or comment on every word or action they
say or do. Learn to overlook and let go sometimes. This certainly builds their
self-confidence.
8. Ask your children's permission before entering their
rooms. Don't just knock and enter, but then wait for a verbal permission. They
will learn to do the same when wanting to enter your room.
9. Apologize to your children if you made a mistake.
Apologizing teaches them to be humble and polite.
10. Don't be sarcastic or make fun of their views or
feelings, even if you "didn't mean it" and was "only
joking". It really hurts.
11. Show respect to your children's privacy. Its important
for their sense of value and self-esteem.
12. Don't expect that they will listen or understand the
first time. Don't take it personally. But be patient and consistent.
I hope and believe this helps for the now and future
parents.
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