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Top 10 Reasons Why Men Cheat

Men who engage in sexual and romantic entanglements after making a vow of monogamy do so for a variety of underlying psychological reasons:

1. He’s a liar. He never intended to be monogamous, despite his commitment. He doesn’t understand that his vow of fidelity is a sacrifice made to and for his relationship and the person he professes to love. This man views monogamy as something to be worked around rather than embraced.

2. He is insecure. Deep down, he feels that he is too young, too old, too fat, too thin, too poor, too stupid, or too whatever to be desirable. He uses flirtation, porn, and extramarital sex as a way to feel better about himself, to reassure himself that he is still desirable, worthwhile, and “good enough.”

3. He is immature. He thinks that as long as his partner doesn’t find out, he’s not hurting anybody. He doesn’t understand that significant others almost always know when something is up. He doesn’t “get” that his partner will eventually find out what’s been going on, and when that occurs, it won’t be pretty.

4. He is damaged. Perhaps he is acting out early trauma experiences, such as physical abuse, neglect, or sexual abuse. His formative wounds have left him unable or unwilling to fully commit himself to another person. He may also seek sexual intensity outside his relationship as a way to self-medicate (escape from) his emotional and psychological pain.

5. He has unreasonable expectations. He believes that his spouse should meet his every sexual and emotional need, 24/7, without fail. In his narcissistic and self-focused way, he doesn’t understand that his spouse may be juggling multiple priorities (kids, work, home, finances) in addition to him and the relationship. When this spouse inevitably fails him (in his view), he feels entitled to seek intimate attention elsewhere.

6. He is bored, overworked, or otherwise put-upon (in his mind), and feels deserving of something special that is just for him—hiring prostitutes, viewing porn, or having affairs. Or maybe he wants more attention from his mate and thinks a period of pulling away will cause her to comply.

7. He is confused about love. He mistakes limerence—the “rush” of early romance—with love. He does not understand that in truly loving relationships, the early, visceral attraction is gradually replaced by sweeter feelings of longer-term attachment, honesty, commitment, and emotional intimacy.

8. He is addicted. Perhaps he has an ongoing, problematic relationship with alcohol or drugs that affects his decision-making and disinhibits him. He may also have an issue with sexual compulsivity, meaning he uses sexual activity as a way to self-soothe, escape uncomfortable emotions, and dissociate from the pain of underlying psychological conditions.

9. He wants out. He is looking to end his current relationship and is using external sexual and romantic activities to give his wife or girlfriend “the message” without having to be direct. Or, if he is a man who doesn’t like being alone, period, then finding a new and “better” person before leaving a current relationship provides a safer and softer landing.

10. He lacks male bonding and a peer community. Having undervalued his healthy need to maintain solid, supportive friendships and community with other men, his reaction to a busy or distracted spouse is all the more injurious—as he expects all of his emotional and physical needs to be met by this one person.

You can't be good enough

Harufu inavyoweza kuleta hisia za kimapenzi (Pheromones with Sexual Response)

Ukitupilia mbali maneno matamu na kuwa na sexy body kitu kikubwa kinachoweza kumvutia mwenza wako na kutaka kuwa na wewe ni harufu.

Wanasayansi na wanasaikolojia wamefanya utafiti na kugundua harufu ya pheromone hutumika sana kuvuta jinsia tofauti.

Watengenezaji wa perfumes wamekuwa na ujanja huo wa kuchanganya na pheromones ndani ya perfume.Hii harufu hutumiwa na wanyama kwa ajiri ya kuvutia mwenzake kimapemzi.

Ukipata perfume iliyo na hii harufu hakika inaweza kukusaidia sana. Si tu katika kuvutia kimapenzi hata katika mikutano kama unataka upate attention kubwa tumia perfume hii.

Hii ni issue ya kisaikolojia na sayansi siyo uchawi. Maana harufu hiyo inapenya kwenye cells za mwili na kufanya akili iweze kusisimka.

Thanks the past

Unfortunately, the clock is ticking, the hours are going by. The past increases, the future recedes.You realize that our mistrust of the future makes it hard to give up the past.Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift of God, which is why we call it the present.

Biggest Man mistake

A man's biggest mistake is giving another man an opportunity to make his woman smile. If you love her, you shouldn't be giving any guy that chance. It should be you making her smile.Same goes for a woman - because a woman's biggest mistake is not treating her man well enough to keep him from looking and letting another woman treat him the way he believes he should be treated

Key of good relationship

A true relationship is having someone who accepts your past, supports your present, loves you and encourages your future.

All about love

Lot of people are pretty obvious with their actions.

I rarely get my hopes up, not because I  lack confidence  but because I am a realist.

Actions prove why words mean nothing, from relationships to work, from work to parties.

Intentions that aren't acted upon are just ideas, and ideas without action are just thoughts.

So if that woman you want to be with is messing around, it is because you aren't her priority.

If that guy doesn't call you for two weeks, he doesn't like you as much as you like him.

If that important meeting keeps on getting rescheduled, it means it is not that important to the other party.

The people who always text and call to ask how you are, these are the people who care.

The people who email you back straight away and the people who do things to help. These are the people you should invest your time in.

Remember your happiness starts with you.

Not with your relationship.

Not with your friends.

Not with your job.

But with you.

Things outside of you won't fix problems on the inside.

Love yourself properly and people will love you.

Don't chase after people who are running away, if it is meant to be it will be.

If not, there are plenty more fish in the sea

I love you !

As a man never let her give up on you

Sometimes it feels like guys and girls speak different languages when it comes to love. If you think that the one and only girl in your life isn't getting the message that you love her, you have to make an extra effort to show her how you feel. It's all about finding a balance between giving her love and affection and accepting her individuality.

Respect someones feelings

Conversations with the ones you love can sometimes get emotional. Even if your intentions are good, you might be in danger of hurting someone’s feelings. The best way to be sensitive to other people’s feelings is to listen carefully to what they have to say, and to speak kindly. It’s important to respect someones feelings cause it will bring to you better credits in accordingly to your relationship.

Perfect combo

If really someone has great feelings, deep pleasure or satisfaction as a result of your own achievements, qualities, or possessions am sure he or she will a be Perfect  combo with you.

One reason is enough to hold with the one you love

.Mapenzi yanaumiza #True story

Ni kutoka kwa rafiki yangu, ambaye mpaka sasa ni kama karukwa na akili, huongea mwenyewe hata kucheka ovyo mpaka ana huzunisha.

Ni  kwamba huyu rafiki yangu mkubwa, alikutana na binti mmoja huko Iringa alipokua field, ambaye alitokea kumpenda sana, kutokana na life style yao pale kijijini alipokuwa anafanya field kwa moyo mmoja aliamua kumsaidia na kwa kipindi hicho jamaa ndio kamaliza chuo.

Wazungu wanaita love at a first site ndicho kilicho mtokea rafiki yangu alikufa na kuoza kwa huyo binti.

Siku zilipita na field ikaisha,binti akarudi nae mjini akamfanyia mpango akaanza kusoma kozi ya flight attendants chuo kimoja kipo posta pembeni ya sanamu la askari. Binti alisoma kwa udhamini wa jamaa. Binti alimaliza certificate kwa bahati nzuri akaendelea diploma bado jamaa alikuwa anadhamini huku wakipeana ahadi za kuwa wataoana kwani aliona ni binti wakuoa na mwenye maadili.

Kumbe sivyo alivyofikiria, binti baada ya kumaliza diploma jamaa akafanya mpango akapata ajira kwenye shirika moja la kigeni kama mhudumu wa ndege, ndipo balaaa likaanza binti alianza  kuwa na kiburi huku akisahau alipotoka.

Wiki iliyopita binti kamwambia jamaa hampendi na asante kwa kumsomesha ila amepata anayempenda zaidi. Na kwa taarifa aliyopata jamaa ni kwama binti kapewa ahadi ya kusomeshwa chuo kinachomilikiwa na ndege za Emirates so ndio kapata kiburi, na ni wiki sasa binti kakata mawasiliano na kamblock jamaa.

Ninavyoandika hapa jamaa kama kawehuka haamini kilicho mtokea, jamaa anaongea hovyo hovyo ila yote ni sababu ya binti aliyemtoa kijijini na kumsomesha akiamini atakuwa mke wake ila leo kamgeuka.

Wanawake kuweni na huruma jamani jueni mnaonekana.

At last the saying "I am very busy love" is banned

To be cared, is what we need

The Saddest part

Are you still the same

Or did you change somehow?

At this very moment when I think of you?

And when I'm looking back

How we were young and stupid

Do you remember?

Now look at me

Instead of moving on, I refuse to see

That I keep coming back

And I'm stuck in a moment

That wasn't meant to last

I still need you

I still care about you

Though everything's been said and done

I still feel you

Like I'm right beside you

But still no word from you.

Daaah! siku hizi mapenzi pesa, uko kupetipeti mmh?

Vyakula vya kumfanya mwanamke awe mtamu wakati wa tendo la ndoa.

Ki uhalisia haya mambo sio miujiza ni science na uhalisia. Mwanamke anaweza kuwa na ladha nzuri wakati wa tendo na kumfurahisha mwenza wake akiwa anatumia vyakula vifuatavyo;

 1.Nanasi au juice ya nanasi.
 Nanasi lina sukari nyingi linapoliwa na mwanamke, humeng'enywa na hatimaye hujengea afya sehemu ya uke na kufanya iwe na ladha zuri. Wengine wanasema mnato. Vile vile matunda ya strawberry na yenyewe yanahusika sana.

 2. Vitunguu maji na vitunguu swaumu.
 Japo pia hua vinaleta harufu mbaya mwilini kama si msafi,kwa upande mwingine vitungu vinaongeza ladha kwa mwanamke na aweze kufurahisha na kuleta raha wakati wa tendo.

 3. Vyakula vyenye mafuta mafuta.
 Vilevile vyakula vyenye fat au oil nyingi hufanya kitu kiwe kitamu. Lakini katika yote namba moja ndio inahusika zaidi.

I still love you!!