Sometimes we meet someone and we just know it's love.
However, it isn't always easy to see the wonderful qualities of the people
right there in front of us. Therefore, it is good to know about some of the
ways that can make it more likely that someone will fall in love with
you automatically. Just remember that there is no way to make someone fall in love with you.
All you can do is try to create the right conditions and see what happens.
Being Lovable
Take good care of yourself. Physical appearance plays a huge
role in whether or not someone will be attracted to someone else.How well you
care for your physical health and appearance is something that people can see
right away, so it is worth putting some extra time and energy into while you
are trying to attract someone. People will notice if you don’t care for
yourself and this may make someone lose interest.To ensure that you look your
best, exercise, eat right, practice proper hygiene and wear clean, flattering
clothing.Don't be afraid to capture attention.
Make sure that your personality shines through and he/her
knows about your likes and dislikes. Being passionate about something is very
attractive and others will take notice.Be proud of your accomplishments and confident in your
abilities. Confidence is something that people admire, so don’t be shy about
what you have accomplished.Be kind. Treat others the way you want to be treated. It may
sound cheesy, but it's true. If you want others to treat you with care and
respect, you should start treating others this way way, too. People are more
likely to fall in love with other people who have great personalities, who are
polite, and who are kind to others.
Preparing for Emotional Hurdles
Don't act like you're not bothered. So many people do this.
Pretending that you don't care or aren't bothered about the relationship does
NOT help and makes the other person feel a burden and this will NOT work.
Be emotionally available. Relationships are hard. Before
trying to get someone to fall in love with you, be sure that you are ready for
one. If you are too hung up on a past relationship, are more interested in
dating someone else, or just not ready for commitment, don't try to get someone
to fall in love with you.
Consider how you feel about this
person. Do you love him or her? You will want to be sure that you feel romantic
love for the person and not just the love felt between close friends. It can
often be difficult to tell the difference. If you don’t love the person yet,
then consider slowing things down. If it is meant to be then you will both
develop feelings together.
Think about your motives. Think about why you want to be in
a relationship. If you only want a person to love you in order to feel better
about losing another relationship or to make someone jealous, then getting that
person to fall in love with you is a bad idea. This is inconsiderate towards
the very real feelings they may end up developing. If you want someone to fall
in love with you because you want to be with someone for a long time and have a
mutually supportive relationship, then go ahead.
Consider your goals. Determine your long-term goals for the
relationship. If you can't see it lasting, there isn't much sense in trying to
make someone fall in love with you. This is emotionally cruel to both yourself
and the other person. There is nothing wrong with casual dating; if you want to
date someone but don’t see it lasting, just enjoy it for what it is and don’t
try to make it more serious. You don’t need to be in love to keep dating.
Believe that there are other people. Sometimes we have
feelings for someone are not returned. This is okay. You shouldn't feel like
it's the end of the world or that there's no one else for you. There are an
awful lot of people on this planet, after all. If someone doesn't return your
feelings you should understand that it wasn't meant to be and that you wouldn't
have been all that happy together. You'll find someone else before you know it
and wonder why you ever felt upset in the first place.
Don’t try to be someone you are not to get someone to fall
in love with you. Make sure that the person you decide to be with is compatible
with you as you are.
Developing a Bond
Get to know the person better. The first step in getting
someone to love you is to get to know the person better and allowing the person
to get to know you. Getting to know someone takes time and energy because you
will have to ask the right questions and listen well.Ask about what your love interest wanted to be as a child
and what he or she wants to do now. This will tell you about the person’s hopes
and dreams, as well as other things that he or she wants to get out of life.
Ask about likes, dislikes, interests, s, and goals.
Share the person’s passions. Show an interest in the things
that your love interest loves and learn to appreciate the things that make him
or her happy. Don’t fake your interest because people can often tell when you
are not really interested in something. Try to experience the person’s
interests through his or her eyes and share in that passion. This will give you
something to bond over and put you on the path towards love.
For example, if the person is a big fan of a sport that you
don’t know much (or anything) about, ask him or her to tell you more about it
or teach you how to play. Or, if the person is really into a certain kind of
music, listen to a lot of that music and find some songs that you like too.
Treat the person like a hero. Make your significant other
feel like your hero/heroine when they’re around you. Let him or her help you
with schoolwork (to make him or her feel smart), ask for personal advice (to
make him or her feel wise), and ask for help or advice on subjects that are
particularly important to the person (to give him or her a chance to
demonstrate expertise). Asking for clothing advice or help reaching or opening
containers are also ways that you can make your significant other feel useful
and capable.
Create trust. Trust is an essential component in a healthy,
long-lasting relationship. Learn to trust your significant other and show that
you trust him or her with your words and actions. Make sure that you show your
significant other that you are trustworthy as well.
If your significant other tells you a secret, keep it. If
you find out something that embarrasses him or her, don’t bring it up or tease
him or her about it.
Share your secrets with your significant other and reveal
parts of yourself that no one else sees. Allow yourself to be vulnerable with
your significant other and let him or her comfort you.
Support your significant other during difficult times.
Offering support is very important to creating true love between two people.
Most people want to be in relationships to begin with because they like having
someone to support them. If you can be supportive and caring to your
significant other, this will go a long way towards getting the person to fall
in love with you.
Sometimes you can support someone by offering to just listen
and provide physical comfort. But other times, you may need to do something more.
For example, if your significant other is struggling in school, you may need to
help him or her study.
Loving Your Significant Other
Respect your significant other. Respect is important in a
loving relationship. Always give your significant other a chance to speak and
have an opinion, and when he or she talks, make sure that you listen.
Respecting your significant other also means never giving him or her a reason
to think that you're unfaithful. It's fun to flirt with other people, but if
they see you flirting with everyone who walks down the street then they're
never going to want to commit to you.
Be a good friend. You should give your significant other the
same consideration you would give a good friend. This means that you should
always be there for them and be unselfish in your actions. But be a good friend
to your significant other because you want him or her to be happy, not because
you want something from them.
Remember that you are two separate people. No one wants to
feel trapped in a relationship. This is why many people keep themselves from
getting too serious. If you give your significant other the freedom to do the
things he or she loves, you will go far in making the person feel comfortable
with the idea of loving you. Respect your significant other’s independence;
don’t try to change them and certainly don’t invade their privacy. They are
allowed to have secrets and things that are just theirs.
Embrace your significant other just as he or she is.
Celebrate the good things about your significant other and try to accept the
things that annoy you. Don’t try to get your significant other to change for
you.For example, don’t force your significant other to change his or her diet
or personal style. If you make suggestions along these lines and he or she says
“no”, respect that and don’t bring it up again.
Honor your significant other’s need for alone time and
personal space. Alone time and personal space are important for both of you, so
don’t try to make your significant other give up his or her personal time to
spend more time with you. Be respectful of your significant other’s personal
space as well and don’t try to rearrange your significant other’s room or go
through his or her things.
Do things on your own or with your friends a couple of times
each week. Don’t force your significant other to spend every waking moment with
you or he or she may feel suffocated.
Keeping Them in Love
Appreciate your significant other. Don't ever take the
person for granted. If someone falls in love with you, you’ll need work to
maintain that love. The best way to keep someone in love with you is to never,
ever take the person for granted. Show the person that you appreciate him or
her every day.
For example, say thank you when your significant other does
something nice for you. Make sure that the “thank you” is sincere and specific.
For example, “Thank you for putting away the dishes and making coffee this
morning! That made my morning so much easier! I really appreciate it.”
Spend quality time together. Just because you’re both in
love and your relationship seems stable and at its peak doesn’t mean you should
stop putting in an effort. Continue to go on dates, buy each other flowers, and
things like that. This will show your significant other that you still care and
are still invested in the relationship.
Most importantly: tell your significant other “I love you”
every day.
Keep things exciting. Don’t just do the same things you
always do. Routines can be nice, relaxing, and even comforting but it’s
important to break out every now and again and do something new and exciting
together. This shows your significant other that there are still things to look
forward to in the relationship and that their lives won’t stagnate by being
with you. It can also help recapture some of the excitement associated with
first falling in love.
Do something daring like skydiving or rock climbing. Take up
dance classes or learn to paint together.
Learn something new together, like furniture building, which
can be used to fill your living space with things you create together.
Try introducing a board game night, which will give you the
chance to have fun together and indulge your competitive sides.
Beginning a Romance
Find someone that's right for you. Finding the right person
will increase your chances of being able to fall in love, be loved, and stay in
love. The person you choose needs to be ready for a serious relationship, able
to cope with the emotional stress of a relationship, and compatible with you.
If the person does not meet these requirements, then you will be wasting your
time and you may end up getting hurt.Think about your compatibility: do you
enjoy the same things? Do you have the same goals in life? People that make
good couples tend to be kind of the same in terms of how they handle drama and
what they prioritize in their life.
Set up a date. To set up a date, don't beat around the bush:
be straightforward and specific. Suggest a concrete activity that is
entertaining for both of you and be honest about why you want the person to
come. Taking control of the situation like this shows that you are confident,
which is an admirable quality.
Tell your special someone something like, "Hey, I'd
really like to go to the zoo this weekend and I would love it if you'd be my
date."
Be a great date. From the very first date, you want to be
someone that's fun to be around. Even before your date you will want to create
opportunities to spend time together in a way that shows just how wonderful you
are.
Choose date activities that will be fun for both of you. If
you don't know each other very well, choose something that will give you and
your date something to talk about: like a movie. If you do know each other well,
choose something that's outside the norm for both of you. This may allow them
to see you in a new light
Try a thrilling date, such as an action movie or a trip to
an amusement part. These activities have been shown to increase feelings of
attraction between two people.
Surely you’d like to find the love of your life, someone you
can see yourself spending the rest of your life with. And when you do find that
person, you’d probably try your best to overcome the obstacles that might be
ahead of you. Maybe that obstacle can be in the form of the family not
approving of your significant other. Or maybe it’s distance – you found someone
on the Internet. Or maybe it’s financial – you have the love but find it hard
to maintain the relationship. Problems like that can be easily overcome as long
as you have the desire to get past them.
